Do you know the old song that actress and singer Doris Day made popular in the 1950s titled “Que Sera, Sera” (Whatever Will Be, Will Be)? The song is sung by a child who asks her mother about the future; she wants to know what she’ll be when she grows up. The mother’s answer is that no one knows, and whatever will be, will be – in other words, the child should just wait and see what happens. However, as life coach Sylviane Nuccio knows well, that’s not the way to get the future of your dreams. You need skills, you need a plan, and sometimes you need someone to give you a fresh perspective on everything. If that sounds like you, then keep reading for some information about achieving success and happiness in our recent interview with Sylviane Nuccio.
UV: Let’s start by getting a little bit of information about you. You’ve recently moved back to France, where you grew up, and in a recent blog post you talk about how strange it is to hear people speaking French all around you. Is there new French vocabulary that you’re having to learn that wasn’t in current use 15 years ago?
No, not at all. I think that if languages do change over time, it does take more than 15 to 20 years to really feel it. We can easily watch movies that are 70-80 years old and still understand every single word, don’t we?
What felt strange is to walk around in a place where the official used language is French as opposed to English. At times I still want to ask my way in English, for example, and I have to remind myself, OK, don’t forget to speak French here. It makes it even worse when I’m speaking with someone in the US on Skype and then I need to speak to someone in French right after. At times I’m speaking in English to them, and when I notice that they look at me funny, that’s when realize my mistake. This has happened to me three times already.
I also want to specify that I’m in France temporarily as well. I intend to go back to the US around June 2016. My goal is to spend 6 months there and 6 months here.
UV: You speak English and Spanish as well as French. How did you learn your second and third languages?
I studied English starting in my studio in Paris for a good couple of years before moving to New York, so I had some good basis by the time I moved. Then living in the US and my strong will to become totally fluent did the rest. There is no age to become totally fluent in a language. I spoke only French for the first 25 years of my life, yet I learned my two foreign languages as an adult.
I learned Spanish in the mid 1990’s doing some voluntary work with Hispanic people for 5 years in New York as well. Since most of them didn’t speak a word of English, either you’d quit or you’d learn the language they spoke, which I did. I have to say that I can learn languages rather easily, because I love languages.
A language is much more than just words and sentences. A language is a culture, a personality, a specific type of humor, and a way of life. A language is the personality of the people who speak it, and you can only get to know such people fully when you speak their language.
UV: Do you think that knowing more than one language is something that helps people achieve success, especially in today’s global marketplace?
Well, since you ask, I can tell you that being bi-lingual or multi-lingual is greatly underestimated in the US. Bilingual people are for the most part underpaid for their skills. So to answer your question, yes, I’m sure it can help you get a job because you are bilingual, like I did in the past, but at the same time you may be underpaid for it.
Being multi-lingual is not as valued as having a degree in this country, yet I think it should, because it takes work and skills to be able to speak fluently more than one language. And I like to emphasis on the word “fluent” because not being fluent is, indeed, not very valuable when it comes to languages.
UV: Please tell our readers about the role of overcoming subconscious beliefs when they are obstacles to success and happiness. How do you help people get over these mental blocks?
The subconscious mind is the engine that runs everything. Unfortunately, most people walking on the planet are totally unware of their subconscious mind, and most of all of their subconscious programming, so they are left wondering most of the time.
Every time something either pleasing or unpleasing happens to them they’re saying why me? Or why not me? This is because that’s the first question we ask ourselves when we don’t understand that what happens to us is largely depending on our subconscious programming and what we attract based on such programming.
However, we can’t feel guilty for what we didn’t know or what we still don’t know about, which is running the show, so we shouldn’t be blaming ourselves for the negative stuff that happens to us. But I try to help my clients understand that they are “responsible” for it at a subconscious level. It’s not that they are punished or unlucky, it’s that most of what they’ve been calling “circumstances,” “fate” or “luck” was created by their very subconscious beliefs.
When they get that, a huge step forward has been accomplished.
A very common example easy to understand is a woman that keeps attracting Mr. Wrong. No woman consciously wants to attract a bad man who disrespects, or abuses her, but a woman who does attract such man is usually someone who has been mistreated as a child or seen her mother been abused in some way. So the way her subconscious is programmed is that being mistreated by a man is “normal” and that’s what she’s going to keep getting (attracting according her subconscious programming) until she’s able to reprogram her subconscious mind. But until she does, she will most likely attract the same type of men in her life.
This is just one example, but it works the same for everything in life; job, money, relationships, friendships and so on.
So my main focus is to teach people how they can consciously reprogram their subconscious mind.
UV: When you’re not helping people reach their goals, you’re achieving your own goals as a writer and blogger. But what do you do when you’ve got a mental block that’s preventing you from finding the right vocabulary words to say what you want your readers to hear?
Well, because I’m applying my own medicine, meaning I’ve coached and keep on coaching myself in my own life, I know how to release resistance, and resistance to anything is probably the strongest thing that can block you.
Thus, I rarely if ever look for words when I write, because for one thing I know ahead of time that everything will be fine and flow just right, and it usually does. Actually, I write what we call “subconsciously” meaning that the words flow easily as long as I have an idea about what I want to write. A general idea is usually enough for me.
I do not ever write if I feel like I have a writer’s block. Instead I go for a walk, because walking is an excellent way to relieve any type of resistance. As I walk, writing ideas usually start coming.
I never take it for granted, but I often have great compliments about my writing, being inspiring, timely, needed, clear, easy to understand, and so on. That’s when I know that I’ve done it right.
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